Few of us look forward to confrontation. When we have issues with someone our energy has become strained or jammed up. We often feel the energy between us and this person has become a battleground and confronting them feels like were heading into battle. And as with any battleground, we have to arm and protect ourselves in anticipation of war. In any war there will be a winner and a loser. War-like confrontations often involve each side yelling and screaming to be heard, with each person taking the I am right, and I want to be sure you know that I am right attitude. We dont go into a confrontation looking for a win-win solution; we each want to come out the winner. Trust me when I say, confrontations never work for anyone.

We must also take into consideration conflicts are unavoidable and arise on a daily basis. Each one of us is a bundle of beliefs and opinions that at times differs from someone elses beliefs and opinions. It is important to call on our internal wisdom to guide us in knowing which conflicts to let go of, which to walk away from and which ones are important enough to have a conversation about. If you are willing to have a conversation with someone before the battle arises, you increase the possibility of a win/win solution. Here are 4 steps to having a peaceful conversation:

1. Have the conversation as soon as possible after the conflict arises. The longer you wait, the more the splinter will fester and youll begin to leak energy. Each day that goes by without discussing it with the other person slowly builds up to a conflict.

2. Take on the attitude that you are not right about this situation. Both you and the other person have different perceptions and opinions to which each is entitled. Be open to listening to their point of view. Once they feel acknowledged, they will be more apt to listen to your point of view. The road to resolution is not a one way street.

3. Take a moment to get clear on what you want to express. Enter into the conversation believing that you will hear and be heard and that each of you will eventually get to a place of understanding each others position. Each of you wants, and deserves, to be heard and validated. What is true for you is also true for the other person.

4. Before the conversation, sit quietly, move into your heart space and envision the outcome you desire. See you and the other person having a great conversation, each listening to the others perception, shaking hands and both of you feeling like youve been victorious.

And lets face it: There are people in this world who walk around so afraid of appearing vulnerable and weak that they see most situations as a fight to be right, or a battle to be won. When you come in conflict with such a person, have the wisdom to walk away. No conversations will ever be heard except the one inside you, with your inner guide encouraging you to walk away from this one, and send this person love, because they sure could use an extra dose right now.

Be inspired this week to let go of the conflict. Ask your inner wisdom which conversations are yours to have. Ask for the courage to listen, validate and speak your truth. Believe in a win/win solution.